Warning… a personal post and would be boring
to most readers
6th June 2012 was the start of my
30th year of married life …(am patting my own back) 24 hours/7..365 day x 29 years is a very long
time indeed and you would not believe it that I did send my wife a message over
mobile thanking her for having kuppai
kotifying with me for so long( surely not a romantic message I know)….you
must be wondering if it is a foreign language, well it is a phrase in Tamil
which means putting up with garbage
and I the response I got from her was that she was overwhelmed by my message
and she felt that it was the other way around. This surely seems like the short
story “The gift of Magi” that I studied during my higher secondary..each one
trying to outdo the other by sacrificing the item most important to them. A
nice feeling indeed and it is quite hard to describe the same.Only regret is that we are miles apart..me in Oman and she at Chennai !
During the last 29 years both of us have had myriad
experiences that has been quite difficult at times and I thankful that my wife
Revathi stood by me. I have not been a perfect husband for sure and that is
what I meant in my message to her on the eve of the anniversary. There were few
difficult times when I can tell with certainty that both of us have considered
that it is difficult to continue together and yet we have forged ahead and the reason attributed
to this that one us would stop arguing and thereby deflating the heated
discussions . I know life is not a bed of roses and all couples have problems
in their lives but then one partner needs to let go of his/hers ego for
continuing relationship. My parents were together for 54 years till such time
my mother departed in 2010 and it has been an inspiration to me …their life
experiences did help me to overcome few difficulties in our lives. These days
we tend to read that divorce rates have gone back because of the lack of compatibility
and the main culprit is arguments …neither one of the partner are willing to
back down..a question of ego I would say with my limited knowledge.
Thank you Revathi for a lively experience
during the last 29 years and I pray that we continue like this for a long time
ahead, till we are able to see our young daughters well settled in life.
wow sir wow :)
ReplyDeletei never expected you so young, just now we celebrated our parent's 30th anniversary :)
very blessed pairs can achieve it, i wish you many more happy years must come to you and your family....
One of the bestest post from you highlighting your bond with beauty :)
Thank you Deepak for your kind comments !!!
DeleteHappy Anniversary.
ReplyDeleteThank you !!!
DeleteHappy happy anniversary!!!! Congrats to you both!!! And no the post was not boring...it was sweet and had a sweet, honest message!
ReplyDeleteThank you Bhavana for your wishes and also for not finding it boring ! :))
Deletewish you a v happy anniversary !!
ReplyDeleteThank you Alka ji !!
DeleteHappy anniversary! May you celebrate the togetherness for another 30 years and more!
ReplyDeleteMy world, my thoughts, my musings...
Thanks a lot Upasana for the wishes !:)
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